Thursday, July 8, 2010

Dealing With Change Continued

Yesterday I told the beginning of my story about how retirement plans can change in a heart beat. As you saw in yesterday's blog, my daughter had a near death accident. This made look my priorities square in the face and see clearly what I wanted to do. What I wanted, needed in fact, was to spend this last one third of my life living much closer to my daughter and the rest of my family. When this was decided, I realized there was just one barrier that I would have to figure out. You see, I have a 98 year old aunt who lives here in Ashland, Oregon too. She lives independently, and for the most part does really well. However, she still needs my assistance in many ways. So, I realized I could not move to Portland, Oregon where my daughter lives, without taking my aunt with me. So, that is what I decided to do. I was not sure how she would take my invitation to pull up stakes here and move North, however, in her usual positive, enthusiastic way, she said "I think that is a wonderful idea!". Now here is a senior, who even at her advanced age, is full of life and adventure and willing to change. I have to admit, that her willingness to do this, helped me see how change is not so difficult after all. I stepped back from myself and saw how easy it had been in the 4 years I had been retired, to become very complacent and so comfortable that I was not challenging myself in many ways. Leave it to my 98 year old Aunt Ruth to show me the error of my ways.
So the next step was to list my house for sale. I also wanted to see what was available in Portland. I have gone to to get information on real estate and many other things that I need to research for my big adventure. There is a lot more to share with you as this whole process unfolds. Every day a new feeling, worry, question, or doubt shows up. It is not just a slam dunk and all is well. But, I am learning and I will share my lessons with you as the days go on.

Attitude is everything!

I know we've heard it a million times, but the truth remains: We can't change external events or circumstances (such as an aging body!), but we can control our attitude about them. Much research has been done about the mind-body connection, and how one influences the other.

From a fitness point of view, regular exercise can help improve our attitude. How can you be in a bad mood when you have just returned from a vigorous walk with your dog joyfully bounding along beside you? You've sweated a bit, got your heart rate up, your joints and muscles all feel better, you burned off 100 is good!

Conversely, your attitude affects your physical state. Negativity impacts the immune system adversely, delays healing, and promotes disease. So even if you feel you are overweight and out of shape, start by adjusting your attitude to one of health and wellness - and go for a walk! Then compliment yourself on having done something good for your body and your mind.

In Southern Oregon, we are blessed to have many opportunities for recreation and outdoor activities. One of my favorites is You can also find lots more ideas at our web site